Hello friends, I hope everyone is having a positive start to the week. I was reading a magazine article recently titled, “Is There a Cure for Loneliness?”. I found this topic to be quite interesting. Because I had asked that very question in the past. Hubby and I had been discussing getting me a much-needed companion. I was experiencing severe loneliness during the day. But once hubby (my best friend) was home I felt great.
Almost eight years ago, our sweet boy Izzy came into our lives. He’s lying on the floor now asking for a belly rub. He hates it when I’m on the computer (wink). Although he is a poor conversationalist I certainly feel much less lonely having him with me. Especially when I’m rubbing that furry belly or getting a “just because” kiss on the cheek. I know some don’t care to have a dog lick their cheek, so I’m sorry …but, “I say give mama some kisses”.
There are a lot of social avenues to get involved in online. But, not everyone wants to have only online friendships. There are a lot of older people that have no interest in socializing on the internet, at all. I can certainly understand that. But, I have the good fortune of having cherished relationships with bloggy friends. It’s true, they can’t pop over for a cup of tea or go shopping with you. But, I love having a connection with all of you!
The article mentioned people whose lives just faded away from loneliness. They were living in social isolation. Feeling sick and tired, literally. Did you know our body reacts to loneliness? People who experience severe loneliness, have a biological reflex that triggers inflammation. Emotions can literally attack our bodies, making us feel ill. The article mentioned taking an anti-inflammatory, to “trick” your body, while you consciously change your loneliness pattern. I found that quite interesting. Please don’t start taking an anti-inflammatory without discussing it with your health care provider first.
I immediately thought of time I spend chatting with people at shops, in the checkout line, or at the post office (I know their names, they know mine, etc.,) I find those to be extremely positive “familiar strangers” and I thought it might help to nudge others who are experiencing loneliness. It helped me, that is the main reason for this post today.
I usually spark the conversation with a simple, “how is your morning, etc.) Or, I compliment someone’s, hairstyle, or even the cake mix they are purchasing. I have had very positive experiences 98% of the time (wink). Fellowship at your church can be a wonderful social outlet. Or taking a class ( art, knitting, academics, etc.) can lead to friendships too. Join your high school or college alumni internet group, Facebook has them and there are other websites too. Reconnecting with an old friend is a wonderful way to stop loneliness.
I hope you will consider saying hello, to the cashier, be sincere and ask about their day. Make a mental note of their name ( from their name tag) and address them by name the next time you see them. Or say hello to the person in front or behind you in line. Mention what a lovely “fill in the blank” their wearing, often they will engage in conversation. I realize you can’t live at the market if you are lonely, but these simple things helped me.
The article mentioned a social stigma that implies loneliness means you are a social failure. I’m sorry but I found that a bit ridiculous. Many of us are victims of circumstance. But, I do agree the intense personal experience of being disconnected or feeling all alone can create chaos within us and certainly can make our bodies sick.
If this post is speaking to you, I hope these suggestions have helped. Remember you can always send me an email or leave me a comment too. You can never have too many bloggy friends. Just make sure they aren’t your only means of socializing. Also, you can adopt a pet, unconditional love can smack the loneliness right out of you, wink.
So, I don’t know if there’s a cure for loneliness, but I do think we can help each other out, and maybe, rescue a few animals too. One last thought, being alone is not the same as being lonely. Please don’t think someone is lonely because they are alone. xo
If you feel you are experiencing depression, or you are feeling ill. Please contact your mental health and health care professional.
Have you ever or are you currently, experiencing loneliness? Let’s be bloggy friends! How is your day?
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Excellent and timely article. In my past life, I was a military brat and a military wife. Whenever we moved to a new location I had to learn to make new friends or simply wither with loneliness. I am by nature an introverted extrovert and sometimes stepping out there to meet and make new friends wasn’t easy but it was ALWAYS worth it. And back then there were no cell phones or computer contacts. You had to actually talk to people. I do speak to the cashiers at the market and the produce guy as well. I take time to hold a sincere conversation with the cleaning crew at the office. I have learned you never know where you find your next good friend. TFS I’m sure this article will touch someone.
Omg, I couldn’t love the topic of this article more if I tried. I am a very friendly and outgoing person by nature. But working from home can be quite lonely and quiet, too. But I have our sweet dog, Elsa to keep me company. Plus, I go out at least an hour or so daily to run errands and have gotten to know a few of the clerks at my locals stores. I do stop to say hello if it is one of these people that I know and even will talk to others shopping in stores. Just my nature, I suppose. But I just like talking to others and feel that it brightens my day a bit to be nice when I am out and about. Hugs and thanks for sharing here, Katie xoxo <3
What a great article. It has reminded me to take an hour to write some emails to some friends and relatives of mine who are going thru some tough times with ill relatives taking up a lot of their time – heavy burden, not easily shared
Sending a tummy rub to Izzy 🙂
Thanks for the thoughts you have shared
Hi Katie, you hit on a really good subject I’m glad you’re talking about it. Since my loss I have been experiencing that loneliness. You are right you have many good suggestions when we’re out and about we can always do I got the conversation it doesn’t matter who it is or where you are there’s always something that you can say. It sure brightens my day to have that bit of conversation and I’m sure it does there’s too! And a pet definitely is very soothing to have by your side I have two kitties they take turns climbing in my lap, they were both adopted. I hope you have a wonderful week, big hugs,
Karren
This is such a thoughtful post, Katherine. In the last 10 years I have had three, non-life threatening but ‘stuck at home’ situations and I know what loneliness can do—sometimes, you simply get sick of hearing your own voice (that negative one in your head). I really you appreciate you tackling a serious topic. As we get older, the doctor’s office makes a point of asking if you have been afraid, mistreated, or depressed. I think it should be asked of every individual person, no matter what the age. Smiles, Sandi
What a thoughtful post to read. Yes, I also often suffer from loneliness. You would think I couldn’t possibly since my mom and dad live in the backyard (in a very nice apartment above our garage). I would get and have a dog in a quick minute, but alas the reason I am often lonely is why I can’t have a dog. Our lifestyle includes so much travel that it is hard to develop friendships and difficult to have a pet. Being a blogger is a great way for me to connect to others, but yes, I would like to have friends to go to lunch with on occasion. HUGS, Chloe
I love your suggestions Katie! Being interested in people or things is a great first step. Thanks for bringing this subject up – it’s a lot more prevalent than we think. ❤️ Happy Thursday to you!